What is therapy?
Psychotherapy is an alive, dynamic, turbulent process, not just a sterile exchange of ideas or mechanical prescription for behavior change. Therapy is a vital process, a charged experience. Its power to transform and bring about lasting personal change cannot really be understood from psychology textbooks or experimental research, necessary and helpful as these methods are.
– Jennifer Kunst, How Does Psychotherapy Really Work? It’s Not What You Think
People find themselves walking into a therapist’s office for several reasons. Typically, aspects of their lives have become overwhelming or even unmanageable. All the ways of handling life’s stressors are no longer effective.
Often, a precipitating event can be identified. A relationship has ended badly, work is suffering, or isolation from others has become the new norm. A catalyst for presenting to therapy is common, but not necessary.
Upon meeting with and developing trust with me, it is often discovered that the catalyst for presenting to therapy wasn’t the actual core issue. Rather, the issue was deeper within the person. Imagine the empowerment and relief of discovering patterns about yourself that influence your behaviors across all areas of your life! This is not an uncommon result.
Therapy Is for Everyone
Therapy is not reserved exclusively for those suffering from acute or chronic psychological pain. Therapy empowers people to more easily deal with difficult life transitions, eases the burden of complicated decisions, sparks the confidence for career changes, and empowers those searching for self-improvement.
More Than a Quick Fix!
I wholeheartedly wish a pill existed to eradicate all human problems; I really do. We’re not there just yet. Therapy requires an initial commitment of time, energy, and money. Your future is so worth the investment.
The Good News
The long-term and lasting benefits from therapy include: positive outlook, better health, improved relationships, and higher self-esteem.
When the process has ended, you’ll reflect on the previous version of yourself and constantly pat your back for making one of the best decisions of your life. This is the power of therapy.
The Process of Therapy
Therapy is a journey – a journey with pain, sorrow, joy, happiness, and all imaginable emotions. Through all of it emerges a person often unrecognizable by family and friends.
My Hope for You
My hope is to help you change… I’m here every step of the way, providing constant encouragement and guiding you through this process. I do so in an empowering way which leaves you in a position to make every possible decision you need to make to live a better life – the life you’ve only fantasized about.
Therapy Is a Gift
The gift I offer is one unlike anything you’ve ever received. This is the gift of self-improvement, increased confidence, symptom reduction, encouragement, and happiness.
Therapy is initially uncomfortable; you’re VULNERABLE and often a little afraid. But, eventually CHANGE happens! Not temporary change – I’m talking about long-term, life-altering, happiness-inducing change.
ABOUT THERAPY WITH ME
Humor and Laughter
Therapy is an incredibly serious endeavor. Life is too short to be serious all the time. I appreciate integrating humor into therapy and occasionally sharing a good laugh with the person sitting across from me.
I’m an expert at finding and highlighting your strength areas. I believe in focusing time and energy on internal strengths. This process develops a positive mindset which helps you build on your best qualities. Learning to adapt and maintain a positive attitude is essential in creating more reasonable expectations of yourself and being kinder and gentler to yourself.
Building confidence is essential in our work together. Increasing confidence in general will assist in guiding you to follow your values, increase willingness to take risks (in and out of therapy), and allow learning to occur following mistakes, rather than beating yourself up.
These times are difficult and as such I’m prepared to join you in your darkest hour and provide support and welcome you to receive help. We’re in this journey together; my goal is to witness you succeed through the process.
The process of therapy demands you to take a closer look at yourself and your patterns of behaving, relating with others, and coping with daily stress. All of us have parts of ourselves we purposely avoid looking deep into. This is no easy task. A certain level of bravery is required to successfully complete this task in therapy. Even calling me for the first time is anxiety-provoking and often frightening. Once the call is made, these feelings gently subside.
Getting You Out of Therapy
You’re finished when therapy is no longer necessary. The first question I’ll ask you is, “How will you know that you’re no longer in need of therapy?” We identify these goals and work tirelessly toward making this your realty. My goal is for you to no longer require professional intervention. My process involves teaching you to be your own therapist and prepare you for facing future challenges with a smile.
Maintain optimism, maintain hope, help others in need, and act graciously.
It is an honor to join each person who calls or comes to my office. Providing therapy is a privilege I hold very serious and approach with the utmost respect. There are few things in life I value more than witnessing someone effectively work through a difficult situation. I am consistently impressed with the courage of those wanting to heal.
I’ve been a therapist since the age of 15. Well, unlicensed and without degrees. Let me rephrase, I maintained more of an interest in helping those who were struggling. Lucky for me, there was no shortage of mental health and addiction problems within my family and community. So, I had lots of practice.
I graduated from Marquette University earning a master’s degree in counseling psychology with a specialization in treating addictions. I learned to love music festivals and bratwurst.
Upon graduation, I felt compelled to have a knowledge base required for treating any problem that presented to my office. Without hesitation, I signed up for five more years of education and earned a Ph.D. from The University of Denver in 2017. As a bonus, who can’t enjoy 300 days a year of sun!?!
Family and Hobbies
My wife, two-year-old daughter, and I live in the Centennial suburbs of Denver.
I spend as much free time as possible outdoors where I enjoy snowboarding, hiking, biking, swimming, and playing tennis.
I also take part in the work that I teach, I take excellent care of my mental health, I exercise, and see a therapist when necessary. Lastly, I try to laugh as much as possible.